About Me: My day job is managing short and long term properties where I get my hands dirty cleaning toilets and floors. Often this serves to scour my life of unproductive thinking that crops up at times. Life isn’t easy and it takes work to maintain a healthy equilibrium. I am an insightful Life Coach. I care deeply and am dedicated to helping people improve their lives through powerful reflective questions. I wrote my book Hexpectations because I discovered how my unspoken, and unrealistic expectations were poisoning outcomes from becoming reasonably met.
My Mission: I believe a lot of life is navigated by a powerful word called choice. As adults, some things we get to choose like our clothes, work and attitude; some things we don’t like our genetics, or things that happen to us. I exist and thrive to empower people to break away from bad habits, old patterns and negative mindsets. I believe when people become more aware, they can then choose differently. However, it takes consistency over time to build trust in ourselves to do just that. I also believe this empowerment happens when we recognize our best choice is first surrendering our life and will over to the care of Jesus Christ.
Background: Somewhere in my early teens I began to think I was fat and ugly and nobody really liked me, they just put up with me. That negative narrative dragged me into unhealthy relationships with my body, food, codependency, depression and suicidal ideation. I hated myself and latched onto behaviors and people to find my identity to silence the obsessive thoughts that raced through my head at 200 MPH. I was riddled with fear about every decision. I needed to find a way to face all my fears and compulsive behaviors in order to forge a life that was worth living.
Anecdote: I remember watching Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade. When Indiana comes to the chasm and can see the cave on the other side that leads to the Holy Grail where he must get the water for his Father to live, he cannot see how to get there. He thinks it must be a leap of faith. But you can hear His Father say “you must believe boy, you must believe”. It wasn’t a leap he needed to take blindly, but a step led by belief. Step 2. “I came to believe that a power greater than myself COULD restore me to sanity.” As Indiana ran to find the chalice of life, Donovan, the ever cunning explorer in his greed and misguided self-direction grabbed the shiny cup from the doctor and drank the living water thinking He won! Soon thereafter, however, death consumed him. The quiet Grail Knight then spoke maybe the most powerful 3 words of the movie, “He chose poorly”.
How true that has been for me.
Summary: Sometimes, the easiest and hardest thing to change is one’s mind. I wrote this book called Hexpectations to help people unleash their unspoken, unrealistic expectations so they can be met in a more grace filled way with clarity, agreement and hope. I enjoy life coaching and speaking to people who are looking to move beyond where they feel stuck by taking powerful action steps and following through with what they establish for themselves. Change takes choosing over and over and over again to do differently than before until the choice becomes routine and the change becomes remarkable.
